Soak the fruit (optional but great). Combine chopped dried fruit with rum or apple juice. Let sit 10 minutes, then drain well. This amps flavor and juiciness.
Pulse the nuts and oats. In a food processor, pulse nuts and oats until they're sandy with small bits—no nut butter soup, please.
Add the dates. Toss in pitted dates and pulse until the mixture starts clumping. If it's dusty, add 1 teaspoon water.
Flavor boost. Add almond butter, maple syrup, vanilla, spices, orange zest, chia/flax, and salt. Pulse until sticky and uniform.
Fold in fruit. Add soaked, drained fruit and pulse 3–5 times to distribute without pulverizing. We want pops of fruit, not mush.
Test and adjust. Pinch a bit—if it holds, you're golden. Too crumbly? Add 1–2 teaspoons almond butter or maple. Too sticky? Pulse in 1–2 tablespoons oats.
Roll 'em. Scoop 1 tablespoon portions and roll into balls. If coating, roll in coconut, crushed nuts, or cacao nibs.
Chill to set. Refrigerate 30–60 minutes to firm up. This also lets flavors meld like a good fruitcake—minus the year-long aging, obviously.
Serve and store. Keep a stash in the fridge for daily snack ops.